Friday, 19 July 2013

Are women homophobic?


The thing that stands out most to me about this quote - fantastically wrong on so many levels - is how clearly it demonstrates something I've been saying for quite some time, & that is this: All women are homophobic.

Whether the men being prejudiced against are gay or not is kind of beside the point - after all, 'homo' = man, 'phobia' = fear, therefore: 'homophobia' = Fear of Man - but, if you want to quibble over Greek & Latin etymology, perhaps we can at least agree on this: all women, to a greater or lesser extent, display the 'symptoms' we attribute to said condition: overt caution, fear &/or disdain of men.

The woman posting this foolishness is quite happy to burble forth her conviction that all men should be treated as potential sex criminals - by both sexes. The only thing that marks this out as even slightly unusual in our present era is that she appears to be excusing or even encouraging distrust of homosexuals in order to make her greater point of distrusting all other men. Apparently the key thing to remember here is just so long as you are hating men (gay or straight), you're good to go.

Female 'homophobia' is so normalized in our society that treating every man you meet like 'Schrödinger's Rapist' is considered an ordinary, common sense fact of life - just so long as you are a woman. But if a man feels at all uncomfortable around another man sexually, he is presently branded an evil bigot for behaving the way all women do at all times.

Not that behaving that way is a healthy way to be, of course: hating  anyone - homosexuals, lesbians, heterosexuals, women or men simply because they are homosexuals, lesbians, heterosexuals, women or men, is a pretty woefully unenlightened way to go about one's life. But even if we were to accept that the reaction being discussed (which often comes down to no more than a heterosexual disinclination to celebrate homosexual acts) is a pathology of some kind, a 'phobia', like arachnophobia, or nomophobia, or ouranophobia even, it must surely be the only medical condition we know of for which the only recommended treatment is to be treated with contempt & ostracization by everyone you meet.

Still, if it works, I suppose. Maybe it's homeopathic or something.

Homophobia is the one kind of misandry you're presently not supposed to consider worthwhile & deserved. All the others are still perfectly fine & dandy, though.

What I find so strange about the times we are living in is how we compartmentalize bigotries, & label them either 'good' or 'evil'. Whereas, before this Maoist theory-derived age of Political Correctness, we used to just tell people 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you', or 'treat people the way you want to be treated yourself'. We used to call this 'The Golden Rule'.

And isn't that better? I mean, if you really take those words seriously, wouldn't that actually make you a better person than one who can be manipulated into hysterical overreactions over the difficulties facing one group of human beings while congratulating themselves for openly expressing contempt for another? Wouldn't that be a better way to have spent one's life, in the long run?

There's a blogger by the name of Chelsea Fagan who wrote something in response to that original quote, but I find it also tidily addresses the perils of the underlying 'rape culture' narrative that feminism has promulgated for at least the past 50 years. In her conclusion she says:


 If we lived in a world where to show even a trace of sexual or romantic interest in another person was somehow a reproachable or even criminal act, could you imagine the consequences? How could we fall in love, marry, reproduce? How would we break the barrier with someone we are interested in? We all start off as strangers, and to make someone’s innocent flirtation or starting of a conversation into a justification for homophobia is absolutely repugnant.

A man — gay or straight — respectfully hitting on another person is not a cause for bigotry, it’s not a cause to treat all men as potential predators, and it’s not a cause to reinforce hatred. This quote has successfully justified a young man in his homophobia, reinforced the idea that all men should be treated as potential predators until proven otherwise, and demonized the act of flirting with another person as something that should be feared and, ultimately, reviled.

Sho 'nuff.

Anyhow, to recap:
If any men behave like all women do all the time, they are to be considered very bad people. That's all your society needs you to remember at this point in time.

And once again I am forced into the philosophical position that it sure is a funny old world. 


Written by
Laudanum Byron




3 comments:

L. Byron said...

I just found this bit of writing on Tumblr that perhaps expresses some of what I was getting at here a little mo' better:
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Homophobia: the fear that gay men will treat you the way you treat women.

This is referring to one specific type of homophobia, the direct fear that a gay man is going to automatically find you attractive because you are a man, and will proceed to sexual harass you as a result.

This fear isn’t silly because it’s hypocritical. Assuming that gay men will invade your personal space isn’t irrational because straight men invade women’s. That’s not the reason. The reason is that it’s silly to assume:

That being attracted to men means they’ll be attracted to you
That being attracted to you means they’ll sexually assault you

This, not the hypocrisy, is what makes the fear irrational, and so it is this that we should be addressing.

With that in mind, let’s think of a more accurate quote.

Homophobia: the fear that gay men will treat you the way that SJers think you treat women.

When you think about it, this form of homophobia is almost indistinguishable from the ‘Schrodinger’s Rapist’ concept. Assuming that all straight men (1) want to and (2) are prepared to rape you is just as illogical as assuming that about gay men. The SJers who came up with this catchy quote were too busy laughing at straight guys to realise who the real hypocrites were. Them.

Homophobia: treating gay guys like feminists treat men.

Rekna said...

You gotta be fucking kidding me.
This is just a hugely illogical attempt at justifying the fact that you've never been able to get along with women. If you are so sure about these things, why not discuss it with a femmes before spilling theorems online? Oh. Because you wouldn't want to feel uncomfortable.


I get the feel you were bullied by your sister as a 5-year old and it scarred you.

L. Byron said...

Textbook feminist ad hominem AND shaming language! Brilliant! :D